Child sexual abuse in the Canadian Forces
This is my experience trying to receive justice from a system that is designed to keep secrets.
Here’s a video that I made earlier today.
I’ve come to realize that if I am allowed to die via Medical Assistance in Dying, that I’m not going to live long enough to see the media take any interest in the two historical flaws in the National Defence Act that actively prevent anyone in the modern day from receiving any manner of justice for crimes they endured as children while living on Canadian Armed Forces bases in Canada.
But, such is life.
Here’s my video for January 5th, 2024.
Enjoy.
Here’s a video that I recorded on January 4th, 2024 at around 16:00
So, sold off my 2020 Macbook Pro 13 today.
I think he was a college student, but needed a computer, so I gave him the Macbook for a good deal.
He seemed happy.
Now that everything is in a wind down phase I really don’t need to keep much anymore.
Time to start shedding all of my physical possessions.
The only real purpose that any of my computers served was for me to search for information, make FOI requests, and store and sort information.
But now that we are officially in the year 2024, none of this stuff matters anymore.
I have an iPad Pro 10″ that I’ll be getting rid of next.
So far I’ve gotten rid of anything that I had in relation to electronics.
Got rid of my soldering and desoldering stations, my parts bins, cross reference guides, etc. As I said before, electronics wasn’t something that I was really interested in, but I persisted in it thinking that one day a spark would light inside. That spark never came.
Same thing with computers. I just never had the creativity to create write programs.
Same thing with motorcycles. I’d ride them for a while and then get bored.
I donated all of my hand tools and power tools to a local shop that loans tools out for next to nothing to low income families that need to use tools.
Got rid of my Play Station.
There were only a very few games that I liked to play.
Didn’t want to go through the hassle of selling it so pulled the hard drive from it and put the play station in the computer recycling cage at work.
Got rid of my CD collection last fall.
Got rid of my movie collection at the same time.
Now, don’t think I don’t have anything left.
Still have my iPad, and I still have my desktop.
But there will come a time when I will get rid of the desktop and my drives of data.
I won’t have much use for any of the information that I’ve compiled over the last twelve years.
Disposing of the desktop and the drives will probably be done later in the year.
I’ve already disposed of reams and reams of hard copies. We have a shredding service at work that shreds all documents that are put into recycling.
I would have thought that the media would have shown the slightest interest, but it looks like consolidation and foreign ownership have turned Canadian media into nothing more than stenographer services for the institutions with secrets to hide..
I’ve eliminated a lot of my dresses. That still leaves me with a lot of dresses.
I’ll probably start whittling down the number of dresses that I have until the final weeks.
Then I’ll probably hold on to a good pair of heels and a few dresses.
Haven’t decided which dress and which heels I wanna wear at my procedure, maybe I don’t even yet own the dress that I want to wear.
I want a real intense ruffle dress. Maybe something with a robust petticoat.
I make my application in March of this year.
I have absolutely no doubt that time will fly past really fucking quick from this point onwards.
But, I’m already enjoying the peace and serenity that my approaching death offers.
The one thing that I’ll have to wait for until I obtain my approval from the two assessors is at which funeral home will I undergo my procedure and cremation.
Because I wish to obtain Medical Assistance in Dying and because I post about it on social media, the algorithms keep filling my feed with posts that deal with M.A.i.D.
There are those who are convinced that the government’s intention with M.A.i.D. is to save money on mental health treatment by forcing people with mental illness to undergo M.A.i.D. instead of living on social assistance.
Others are convinced that the government is going to send white vans around in the cities of Canada to euthanize the homeless and the elderly.
One of the major problems that mental health care faces in Canada is that our general population is overwhelmed by American media. American media is dangerous in the fact that it pushes an imaginary economic reality that does not exist. Americans believe in low, low, low taxes. Which is why they have massive infrastructure problems, crappy schools, non-existent social safety nets, and almost non-existent health care. That, and America’s defence spending is completely out of control.
Fellow Canadians see the low taxes that Americans pay, and so they demand from our governments that we pay the same stupidly low taxes up here as they do down there.
Which is why our health care is crumbling. Which is why mental health care is almost non-existent. And which is why mental illness is vilified as being due to laziness and poor personal choices.
America has had homeless mentally ill people wandering the streets and living in tents on the street for years, like since back in the ’70s and ’80s. And this problem is coming up to Canada.
American style austerity is a cancer.
But Canadians love their low, low taxes and their cheap imported goods, so don’t look for any kind of funding increases any time soon.
A lot of disabled rights groups and mental health rights groups want mental illness yanked as one of the criteria for being able to access Medical Assistance in Dying.
But the problem with doing so is that you deny people such as me the right to end our lives as we see fit. You also ensure that I suffer mental pain for 10, 20, or even 30 more years.
Better mental health funding wouldn’t have done anything for me. As I’ve said before, I was a “dirty little secret” and my lack of mental health treatment was due to the desire for secrets to be kept from the Canadian public. No amount of public mental health funding was going to change that.
And having the government of Canada rescind the right of Canadians such as myself to avail ourselves to a humane and painless death at the time of our choosing isn’t going to increase the funding for mental health treatment and housing for persons with mental illness.
To get Canada on track again, Canadians would have to eschew American style disaster capitalism and embrace full democratic socialism. Canadians would have to learn to understand that higher taxes do lead to overall better outcomes as any of the Nordic or Scandinavian countries can attest.
But changes like that would take years, especially when you consider how much money American right wing think tanks pump into Canada on a yearly basis to try to convert us into a mini-USA.
I don’t know what the solution is for the time being.
As I’ve said, I make my application in March of this year. Hopefully I get my two assessments by no later than July. So hopefully I can undergo my procedure and cease living sometime in December of 2024 or early 2025.
I don’t want to be forced to suffer as a casualty in someone else’s war.
Banning M.A.i.D. for mental illness isn’t going to cause 500k new low income houses to be built.
Banning M.A.i.D. for mental illness isn’t going to cause 500k new assisted living homes to be built.
Banning M.A.i.D. for mental illness isn’t going to give those living with disabilities or mental illness $100k in yearly income assistance.
But banning M.A.i.D. for mental illness will prolong the suffering that persons like me have to endure, and I would envision that it would increase the number of suicide attempts and suicides as persons try to escape their pain and torment.
I don’t envy the struggle the mental health and disability advocates face, but please don’t fuck with my ability to die peacefully and painlessly.
Yesterday while I was cleaning out some of my belongings…………
…….I came across a Freedom of Information package that I had submitted to the Alberta Government last year in September of 2022. I received this package in May of 2023 and promptly forgot about it.
I had submitted this request as the oposing counsel in a civil matter that was wrapped up in 2022 had shown me quotes from my Alberta Social Service records that were redacted from the documents that I had obtained in August of 2011.
I had forgotten that I received these as they had been sitting on a shelf in my closet, unopened.
Reading through this version sure was eye opening.
It doesn’t say anything much different than what I already knew, but it does officially attach names.
I still can’t believe that I was actually in the first stages of foster care / residential care.
Children’s Aid in Toronto wasn’t able to get any help from the Canadian Armed Forces with contacting my father when we moved to Canadian Forces Base Downsview in Toronto. CAST had to go through the public school system to find my brother and I.
Yeah, this was after our trip from Edmonton to Toronto over the xmas break in December of 1982. We stayed with Richard’s estranged father Arthur Herman Gill in Oshawa. There wasn’t a lot of closeness between Richard and his Father.
Richard’s “work schedule” often had him out of town on training exercises. I’m pretty sure that he was just signing up for as many training exercises as he could as that would get him out of the house. To Richard, raising children was “woman’s work” and not something for a man to waste his time on.
“In a loud and vociferous fashion”…… That’s one thing that Richard could do. He could turn on the drill instructor attitude and bellow his opinions. I remember when I was in grade 7 at Elia Jr. High and the music teacher, Mrs. Donskov, was pushing for me to take up bass guitar as my asthma made it difficult to play any type of wind instrument. She went so far as to load up her Volvo with one of the school guitar amps and one of the bass guitars. When well pulled up to the PMQ on Canadian Forces Base Griesbach, Richard came storming over to us and told Mrs. Donskov to get that shit back in her car and that I was never to think of doing a stupid stunt like this again.
Richard always had a weird relationship with my teachers. He always wanted “more homework” so that I could spend more time learning and studying, but if I ever asked him for help with said homework he’d explode in a rage. When my teachers would call him trying to get me into extracurricular activities or arrange for me to go on trips, Richard would rage out. I feel sorry for any of my teachers that ever had to deal with him.
There’s no way that Richard would have really agreed to this program. Richard had a tendency to just say yes to everything with the hopes that the person asking would soon forget. I know that my opinion may be a little biased, but Rchard was not someone you could count on or depend on.
“A smack across the face or time in their rooms”. Richard was the master of the leather belt on bare ass. He had no problem with open handed smacks to the face or the head. He also saw nothing wrong with kicking either. Sue would grab and pinch, or use the fly swatter. Believe me, the fly swatter from Sue was far preferable to the leather belt from Richard. There were times when he lost control and blood was drawn. Both from the leather belt and from the smacks across the face.
“Robert’s prospects appear poor”. Yeah, they sure as fuck weren’t kidding.
Due to Richard’s and grandma’s superb parenting skills, not only were my brother and I fully feral. But we were at each other’s throats on a non-stop basis. When you have to fight for the slightest bit of affection you become like Hyenas. Even though we grew up in the same military housing on the same military base in Toronto, I don’t think my brother and I saw each other on a regular basis. He was off in his world, and I was off in mine.
Not surprising. Par for the course actually.
“She should be home making supper”. Way to go Richard!
Richard and Misogyny went together like hand in glove.
On numerous occasions Richard would refer to Sue as a “stupid bitch” or a “fucking cunt”.
I will never for the life of me ever understand what Sue saw in Richard and why she stuck around.
She was better than average looking and she was in her very early 20s when she moved in with Richard on CFB Namao.
She could have easily done much better than Richard.
Yeah, I don’t think there was an external source large enough for Richard to focus his anger and his hate.
“Mr. Gill states that his mother is an alcoholic who refuses to seek help or treatment for her condition”. What an asshole.
Richard was just as much of an alcoholic as Grandma was.
Funnything was, Grandma’s alcoholism didn’t deter Richard from asking grandma to come live with us on Canadian Forces Base Summerside. And it didn’t deter him from asking Captain Lynda Tyrell for a compasionate posting in the summer of 1978 so that we could move to Canadian Forces Base Namao so grandma and her husband Andy Anderson could move into the PMQ on base to raise my brother and I.
And no, Richard didn’t see anything wrong with expsoing Scott and I to grandma’s alcoholism from spring 1977 until spring 1981.
Grandma’s alcoholism only became an issue when Richard had some explainging to do with Social Services.
See, my issues had nothing to do with 1-1/2 years of sexual abuse on CFB Namao. Nor did my issues stem from a dysfunctional family. No, my issues were the fault of the school on base and the fault of mr grandmother. Nothing to do with Richard.
Understatment of the Year Award goes to “The Gill family is a rather confused and insular unit”.
This is the same mother that either Richard forgot to tell the CFNIS in 2011 was raising my brother and I from 1977 until 1981 or that the CFNIS asked Richard to forget in 2011. Either way, grandma had a major inpact on my brother and I.
This part was still redacted, but let me unredact this for you ” Mr. Gill appeared concerned about his mother’s drinking, suggesting she was emotionally abusive to both children, especially when inebriated. As well, Mr. Gill suggested that his mother attempts to undermine any closeness between him and his sons by telling them false stories”.
The only stories that grandma used to tell me, I can’t speak for my brother, but grandma always told me not to believe what Richard had said about our mother leaving, that when I was older I would learn what the truth was.
The thing was, grandma was a nice person when she was pissed drunk. She’d take my brother and I over to the base Canex to buy a toy or two. She’d take us to the base groceteria to grab treats. She’d even take us on the military shuttle bus into the city of Edmonton to go buy toys at Army & Navy. It’s when grandma was sobering up or even sober when she was cruel and angry.
Richard was the exact same thing as his mother. Nice guy when he was pissed drunk. Asshole when he was sobering up. Unpredictable when he was sober.
As per court records from PEI, Richard did in fact NOT have legal custody of my brother and I.
Richard, what the fuck was wrong with you?
It should come as no surprise that I have absolutely no friends.
And I’m not including co-workers, superiors, or subordinates at work.
Throughout my life I could never understand why I couldn’t make friends.
Was I too stupid?
Was I fucked in the head?
The other kids on CFB Namao, CFB Griesbach, and even CFB Downsview loved beating the shit out of me on a regular basis.
I just couldn’t fit it.
No matter how hard I tried.
When I received my social service paperwork in 2011 I found two entries that really stood out.
“Robert does not have the ability to make friends”
“Robert is always left out and is often made the scapegoat by the other children”
“Robert is terrified of men”
With my depression, my anxiety, and my documented fear of being touched by other people it should probably come as no surprise that I couldn’t make friends.
I got beat up one day coming home from Pierre Laporte when I was in grade 8. Seems one of the jock boys had decided that my hips swung too much when I walked so therefore I was a faggot. This kid and his friend were fellow base brats from Canadian Forces Base Downsview.
In the aftermath of this I was so self conscious about how I walked. I think I did hip damage trying to walk like a “man”.
There were times at Pierre Laporte that I did get beat up over my lack of interest in girls.
The one time that I stood up to one of these assholes and was able to have a fair fight with my worst antagonist, my father threatened to knock the teeth out of my mouth if I ever fought again.
I guess that he was happy with me getting the shit beat out of myself, but if I dared fight back then I was going to get a beating that I’d never forget.
Maybe he was afraid that if I started fighting back against the other kids that I’s also start standing up to him and fighting back against him.
It wasn’t always like this.
I don’t remember much about Canadian Forces Base Shearwater, but I do remember that I had friends. Sure, they were mainly girls, but girls were nicer to play with.
As a kid I was never in to the “rough ‘n tumble” stuff. Reading, walking, playing on the swings, that’s what I liked. Jumping out of trees or climbing over the fences on base was never something that piqued my interests too much.
Same thing with Canadian Forces Base Summerside.
Even at the start on Canadian Forces Base Namao, things were okay, but the longer the abuse went on the harder it was to make and keep friends.
Once I had been discovered in the babysitter’s bedroom, that was the end of that.
When my family arrived on Canadian Forces Base Griesbach I started working at the mall cleaning pet cages in the pet store. It was here that I began to realize that adults were better than kids my age. Sure, they weren’t interested in playing. But as long as I did my work I’d get rewarded. And they didn’t want to beat me up.
Kids my age were supposed to be watching goofy TV shows on TV and then talking about them at recess during school. I wasn’t allowed to watch the goofy TV shows. It was either “get the fuck out of the house and go play” in -25C weather, or it was “Jesus H. Fucking Christ you’re too fucking old for that shit”.
Other kids would be invited to play with other kids. I wouldn’t. At least not on CFB Griesbach as I’d always smell like piss.
Sleepovers were obviously out of the question as I obviously wouldn’t be able to control myself sleeping with other boys. And of course there was my fear of pissing the bed.
By the time grade 6 and grade 7 rolled around, boys were supposed to be interested in girls. I wasn’t. Due to my experience with the babysitter, and Terry, and my father, sex was a disgusting thing and even just looking at a girl was wrong. Looking at boys was even worse.
The guys at Pierre Laporte started taunting and teasing me with pictures of figure skater Katarina Witt. To this day I still don’t understand what the fuck this was about, I really don’t.
Gym in and of itself wasn’t bad. But team sports were a disaster.
Having untreated depression and anxiety meant that I was an unmitigated disaster of uncontrolled crying and rage.
Public school is the worst place for someone with an untreated fear of being touched to be. Once the other kids know that they can get a reaction from you by simply touching you or even just threatening to touch you school quickly becomes a nightmare.
And you can bet your bottom dollar that when the teachers and principals at Sheppard Public, Elia Jr. High, and Pierre Laporte Jr. High would reach out to my father, he’d be of absolutely no use…….. “No sir, no ma’am, I have no explanation for why my son is behaving like that. He must be acting up for attention”
And these issues really hurt me in my adult life.
People are very leery of the guy who doesn’t have a partner, or a family.
Most companies view people without significant others as being undependable and unreliable.
Coworkers view you as highly suspect if you don’t want to hang around and talk about sportsball, or the see through dress that some female actor in a movie wore.
When you’re alone, you don’t have anyone to keep an eye on your depression. Doctors that I’ve seen in the past have always brushed off my mental health concerns as my family and others have never voiced a concern.
I bought a home cam a couple of years ago. As I live in a bachelor apartment the one camera sees everything. One night I left the camera on to record me when I slept. I was shocked at the number of times I’d grind my teeth over night, or the number of times that I’d wake up and just sit there before going back to bed.
But, by not sharing my bed with anyone meant that no one was there to point out just how fucking bad my bruxism actually was and how bad my insomnia really was.
Some people are envious of my bachelor lifestyle.
The life that I’ve led is nothing to be happy about and nothing to be jealous about.
What makes this whole matter much worse for me is the fact that people knew.
As I’ve said before.
My father knew about the assaults.
He may not have known about them when they were happening as he was always living off base.
But he knew about them when he eventually had to move back into the PMQ with us on CFB Namao.
Richard used to wear wool sweaters at the time and I used to refer to him as “wooly bully” at the time as in the song by Sam Sham and the Pharos.
When Richard moved back in with us, he was a different man. I was certain at the time that my real father had died on a training exercise and that the Canadian Forces had replaced my father with a look-alike.
Richard may not have known the true extent of what had happened on the CFB Namao, but knew what the babysitter and I had been doing as my father would be in the “counselling” sessions that I started having with Captain Totzke when we were moved down to CFB Griesbach in October if 1980.
Richard was present when Terry told me that he had the base military police watching me and that they’d tell him if I ever kissed or touched another boy.
When Terry said that I shouldn’t play sports because of the change rooms, my father ran with that. Richard never once questioned it. In fact Richard used this logic to deny me permission to go on a swimming trip in Edmonton.
And I know that Richard also used this logic when I was going to Sheppard Public School in Toronto while we were stationed at Canadian Forces Base Downsview. My grade 6 class was going on an end of the year school trip to Quebec City in Quebec. The school was covering the costs of the transportation, and the meals, and the accommodations. Richard didn’t want me going on this trip out of fear that I was going to be uncontrollable with other boys in their beds. Somehow Mr. Cross and Mr. Blair convinced Richard to allow me to go.
It’s obvious that Richard knew.
And it’s obvious that Richard’s attitude towards me was heavily influenced by his knowledge that from age 7 to age 8 I had been sexually abused numerous times over the course of a year and a half.
The fact that Terry had described me as a homosexual at age 9 and that if I didn’t change my ways that I’d be going to prison wouldn’t have really been very beneficial to the relationship between my father and I.
What I wouldn’t know though is how many people knew.
But suffice to say, a lot of people knew.
It’s not the fact that people knew that is driving my desire to die.
It’s the fact that people like Captain Terry Totzke and my own father, Mcpl Richard Gill knew, but allowed my mental health problems to fester untreated.
It the fact that my gender identity and my sexual identity were destroyed by Totzke and my father.
At this point in time, I really don’t give a fucking rat’s ass as to why it was decided to keep me from receiving proper psychiatric counselling for my issues. But, just remember that the DND and the CAF did throw a “wall of secrecy” over the entire Captain McRae matter.
Were they afraid that if I receive counselling for my mental health issues that I’d blab about what had happened on the base, and that this would get the civilian authorities asking questions that DND and the CAF didn’t want asked?
In fact, I would say that the actions of my father, Mcpl Richard Gill, served to amplify my mental health issues and my suffering.
Just because I didn’t know until 2011 that I had been diagnosed with Major Depression and Severe Anxiety, or that my condition had deteriorated by the summer of 1982 to the point that I was supposed to have been institutionalized in a psychiatric facility, doesn’t lessen the damage.
In fact, not knowing what was really wrong in my head made things that much moe fucking worse as I always blamed myself for being a fucking loser and a fucking fuckup.
There were times in my life when I couldn’t believe how fucking stupid I really was.
The fact that I didn’t know until 2011 that I was in the process of being removed from the home and placed into residential care or foster care doesn’t lessen the fact that the house that I was living in was emotionally and physically abusive.
As I’ve said previously, my father had his own treatments for my depression and anxiety. It was literal kicks in the ass, open handed smacks across the face, hits to the back of the head, the leather belt on my bare ass.
My step mother had her own treatments for my bed wetting and my depression.
My grandmother had her own treatments for my issues.
If I wasn’t left to suffer all of these issues on my own, and if I had received timely help with my issues, what would my life have been like?
Boyfriends, girlfriends?…….. who knows.
Trans, gay, straight, bi?……. again, who knows.
In a way I wish that I didn’t have any sex organs as I really don’t like the idea of sex. Since Namao I’ve always really despised my genitals.
Nowadays there is emasculation surgery, which would remove my penis, my testicles and my scrotum. Absolutely nothing down there save for a little hole for me to pee from.
At least I wouldn’t have that fucking thing down there. That fucking thing that caused so many problems in my life.
The reason I changed my name back in 2008 was more than just to get away from the Gill clan. I had no idea what my gender was. My gender has always confused me. I’ve never really identified as a male. I’ve never identified as a female. I don’t like having sex with women. I don’t like having sex with men.
Actually, that’s not true. Sex with men is great, I prefer sex with men over sex with women. But I don’t have it very often because Totzke and my father are screaming at me in my head. Sex is really unenjoyable with that shit going on.
And as much as I like having sex with men I can’t stop wondering if I’m a homosexual because of what happened on CFB Namao.
So, it really is a no win situation with me.
In 2008 I changed my first name to Bobbie. Bobbie is the unisex spelling. Bobby is the male spelling, Bobbi is the female spelling, and Bobbie is the unisex spelling.
I really loved having a first name that didn’t indicate the junk between my legs.
Is Namao alone my reason for my gender issues. Probably not, but Namao and Totzke really didn’t help with my issues.
There were so many opportunities that I missed out on in life.
Finishing high school?
Trade school?
College?
University?
Theatre?
Arts?
I have no idea of what I could have been or what I should have been.
And remember, I wasn’t able to make these choices because I was lazy, or because I was scatterbrained.
I wasn’t able to make these choices due to intentionally untreated mental health issues that I was left alone to struggle with.
Drugs won’t fix my fucked up brain.
Drugs won’t fix my gender issues.
Therapy, nope, been through a lot of therapy since 2011.
Maybe if I had therapy back between October of 1980 and 1990 things would have worked. But I’m 52 now. The rot in my brain has been allowed to fester since 1980. That’s 44 years now. And it’s not 44 years of issues that no one knew about. That’s 44 years of issues that were started off by 1-1/2 years of sexual abuse and 2-1/2 years of very inappropriate counselling.
I know that there are those who will say that I have to simply try harder. That I need a positive attitude. That I need to be thankful for every day that I am alive. And that I need to stop whinging about something that happened over 40 years ago.
Nope.
I just want M.A.i.D.
If society doesn’t want people like me obtaining M.A.i.D. to escape our pain and our torment, don’t let us suffer this pain or this torment in the first place.
Finger wagging at me, and tut-tutting me are completely inappropriate responses.
I don’t owe it to you to suffer another 20 years so that you can say that you saved me, like I’m some fucking pet project of yours.
My life is my life, I lived it, and I don’t want to live it any more.
My journey towards death keeps progressing.
I really was hoping to do more videos and blogs, but at this point in my life I am a one topic person.
And it’s not like this was the easiest story to find out.
The vast majority of it, in fact well over 90% of it had remained hidden from me all of these years.
I was the homosexual, I was the pervert, I ruined everything.
Do you understand how fucking mind destroying it was to discover the truth in August of 2011?
Discover that everything that I had known up to that point in time was an absolute lie?
I suffered so much.
Even though I had been diagnosed with major depression, severe anxiety, and a host of other mental health issues, I was never allowed to receive treatment.
Instead I’d be on the receiving end of my father’s mental and physical abuse and my stepmother’s mental and physical abuse.
Even when my mental health had deteriorated to the point that my civilian social workers were calling for me to first be placed in a psychiatric facility for children, and then removed from the home for my own welfare, those options were denied to me.
So, I suffered alone through grade school and junior high school.
Always getting picked on.
Always getting beat up.
I was an easy target for sexual abuse as what happened with the babysitter was obviously my fault, so any older man who wanted to sleep with me while I lived on Canadian Forces Base Downsview in Toronto was obviously my fault, right?
I asked for it. I mean I obviously asked the babysitter to molest me and my brother, so I must have been asking for what happened in Toronto.
Even when I was just about 16 and I nearly got strangled in High Park, I never said anything as it was obviously my fault.
I was forever hesitant to bring up the topic of Earl as I was sure that no one would believe me and that my own father would blame. During Earl’s criminal trial his defence counsel tried to imply that because I was over the age of 14 that everything had been consensual.
When I dropped out of school back in 1987, it wasn’t because I was having major difficulty with major depression or severe anxiety or because I had a “funny walk” or because I was an obvious faggot because I didn’t like girls. Nope, I dropped out of school because I was a lazy self centred asshole who thought of no one put himself.
Two years later when Mr. Bowles, Mr. Ford, and Mr. Aitken wrote letters to the North York Board of Education vouching for me to allow me to enter the Alternative and Independent Study Program (AISP) Richard didn’t give a shit. He said that if I wanted to live under his roof I had to go to a “real” school and fucking sit there, stare at the blackboard, and take some “fucking basket weaving courses”.
I ended up having to move out and quit school for the second time when I refused to leave AISP and go to a “normal school”.
See, what I was enduring from my father wasn’t just neglect. It wasn’t just physical abuse. It was mental destruction.
I had fucked with Richard’s career goals, and I was going to pay the fucking price.
It was my fault that I couldn’t keep the babysitter’s hands of my brother’s body.
Me? I was a homosexual so no wonder I allowed the babysitter to molest me.
It was my fault that Richard and Sue had to move into the PMQ with us on Canadian Forces Base Namao even through Richard was more than happy living off base with Susan.
It was my fault we moved from Canadian Forces Base Namao to Canadian Forces Base Griesbach.
It was my fault that we became involved with the military social worker in October of 1980.
It was my fault that we became involved with Alberta Social Services in November of 1981.
It was my fault that we had to move to Canadian Forces Base Downsview in Ontario in April of 1983 to avoid my apprehension by Alberta Social Services. This of course ruined Richard’s plans so far as being a Boeing VTOL factory trained maintenance technician on the CH-147 Chinooks.
So, it’s not that Richard didn’t care or give a shit.
Richard was actively seeking retribution.
And I was going to pay the fucking price for what I had done.
It’s not just the never ending depression that I have to deal with.
It’s not the never ending anxiety.
It’s the memories of back then.
It’s Captain Totzke telling me that I was a homosexual.
It’s Captain Totzke telling me that I’d end up in prison.
It’s Captain Totzke telling me that I was going to be just like the babysitter.
It’s Captain Totzke telling me and my father that sports were not an option for me as I’d be sexually aroused by naked boys in the change room.
It’s my father telling me that I couldn’t go swimming because there’d be naked boys in the change room and that I wouldn’t be able to control myself.
It’s the memories of pissing the bed and going to school smelling like piss.
It’s the memories of sitting in school on CFB Griesbach and being able to run my hands through my hair and having clumps of hair come out.
It’s the memories of having to play outside in the Edmonton winters with clothing that was not even suitable for spring.
The physical and mental abuse at the hands of my grandmother, my father, and Sue don’t help much either.
I think the real final nail in my coffin so-to-speak was the sham 2011 CFNIS investigation which “couldn’t find any evidence that the babysitter was capable of what I accused him of” even though the CFNIS had the 1980 CFSIU DS-120-10-80 investigation paperwork that literally backed up everything I had said about Captain McRae and the babysitter.
As you can see, there’s more to my desire of death than just some silly little bit of depression.
What does death actually feel like?
I know that this sounds like a morbid question, but I have a curiosity.
I imagine that as long as violence isn’t involved, and the death isn’t due to slow external or internal bleeding, that death should come on nice and peacefully.
I’ve had two incidents of syncope with elevated troponin levels in the last few years.
The dropping to the floor didn’t hurt.
The being unconscious didn’t feel like anything.
It didn’t hurt.
It wasn’t scary.
It was peaceful.
And then I came to.
Both times I was actually disappointed that I came back.
I can only hope that the dying process is as peaceful as the death.
I know that in the weeks, days, hours, and minutes leading up to my death that I will be anxious as hell.
I know that it’s going to be nerve racking climbing into my death bed.
And I know that it’s going to really be anxiety inducing feeling the midazolam starting to flow into my veins, knowing that I will soon come to the point of no return.
But, all I have to do is remember what depression feels like and what the memories of CFB Namao and CFB Griesbach do to me.
I really wish that there was some way that I could make you understand how being alive hurts.
The depression, the anxiety, the confusion, the numbness.
The memories of the neglect. The memories of the sexual abuse. The memories of the physical abuse. The memories of the mental abuse.
I never asked for any of this.
I never asked for life.
And I should have the right to say that enough is enough.
The opinions of the catholic church and other religious leaders should have no bearing on my request to end my life.
The point of my life is for me to enjoy my life, not to make you happy.
If I can’t enjoy my life, why should I be forced to endure this?
That’s one of the problems with being human.
I’m flawed.
But we’re all flawed.
We have two brains, our primitive brain and our prefrontal cortex.
The primitive brain looks after our basic reflexes and urges.
The prefrontal cortex looks after our higher functions, regulates the impulses of our primitive brain, and basically guides us on our daily struggles to be better than our fellow animals.
The prefrontal cortex as it turns out is very susceptible to stress and mental trauma. And when it becomes damaged it has an even harder time regulating our higher functions.
This is why frontal lobotomies were used to “cure” depression, anxiety, and other issues related to emotional wellbeing. A sharp instrument would be driven into the brain via one or both orbital sockets. The instrument would be moved back and forth, side to side, in order to sever the connection between the frontal cortex and the rest of the brain.
Yes, the procedure would often “cure” the ailments, but it would often leave the patient without the ability to feel any type of emotions, would leave patients apathetic and unmotivated. In worse cases the patient would become catatonic or even just die.
The prefrontal cortex is a relatively new feature in our primate brain. Our closest relatives, the Chimpanzee, which is a great ape, has a prefrontal cortex, but it is much smaller than the human prefrontal cortex.
Chimpanzees aren’t noted for committing suicide.
Humans do.
And quite frequently.
And with very imaginative techniques.
I think it’s just that the prefrontal cortex is too advanced for our primitive brain and it can’t deal with the human flesh and blood body that it is attached to.
When it becomes damaged due to trauma, neglect, or abuse, it is unable to cope properly anymore. It can’t properly regulate anxiety. It can’t properly regulate stress. And it can’t regulate depression.
Structures in the prefrontal cortex change. The prefrontal cortex then decides that dying and death are preferential to being alive.
And the prefrontal cortex makes this decision quite frequently.
It is estimated that around 700,000 people in the world commit suicide each year.
This of course doesn’t include suicide attempts. Nor does it include suicides that couldn’t definitely be proved to be a suicide. And of course sometimes the police / medical personal will avoid recording the death as a suicide to spare the family or loved ones of the deceased.
Who am I to say that the desire to die is wrong.
And is the desire to die really wrong?
Why do I have to live with the trauma that was gifted to me as a child?
Why do I have to live with the brain that was damaged due to neglect and psychological trauma?
It’s almost exactly 3 months until the day I make my application for M.A.i.D.
Today I bid farewell to my motorcycle.
It was a 2013 Suzuki 650cc Bergman.
I bought it in March of 2020.
It was a fun machine to ride.
It could move.
But depression crept in like it always fucking does.
Depression has to be the cruelest part of the abuse from CFB Namao and the subsequent fuckery that happened.
It’s like I keep getting punished over and fucking over for the events on Canadian Forces Base Namao.
I’d been riding motorcycles since my mid 20’s.
As a kid, Richard would often take me on motorcycle rides.
There was something magical about riding on a motorcycle.
My first motorcycle was a Honda CB-750-four.
I didn’t realize why I was drawn to the CB-750-four, but then one day when I was out riding I realized that my father’s motorcycle had been a mid ’70s CB-550-four
I’ve had various bikes over the years, including a brand new 2001 Triumph Sprint RS.
But, as with everything in my life, depression quickly comes in and steals the last bit of joy from my life.
It’s usually Richard in my head screaming at me for being a fucking idiot and that I’m too fucking stupid to own these things.
Anyways, another tenant in the building had been hounding me for the parking spot.
And to be honest, the parking spot was costing me $110.00 / month. $110.00 for my motorcycle to sit there gathering dust and bird shit and mocking me every time that I went to take the garbage out or to ride my scooter to work.
So on Sunday I placed an ad for it on Craigslist. I had been dreading do this. I hate people coming over to buy things from me. That’s one of the reasons that I’d much rather just recycle my old stuff than try to sell it.
Another reason that I don’t like to sell things of mine is that I feel that I’m ripping the person off that I’m selling my goods to.
I’m deathly afraid of selling my stuff to someone and then it breaking and the person then thinking that I’m some sort of scam artist.
So, I listed the bike for $500.00 “As Is” with the stipulation that I was selling it as a parts bike, but that if the buyer felt so inclined they could probably ride it.
But I wasn’t selling a bike to be ridden.
I was just selling a “parts bike”.
The eventual buyer came by with a new battery just to see if the bike would even turn on.
So, even though I hadn’t started it since December of 2021 it fired up within 3 cranks of the engine.
It idled nicely and smoothly.
I explained certain aspects of the bike to the buyer such as the Manual and Automatic transmission modes, the heated grips, the heated seats, the electric mirrors, the electric windshield that raises and lowers,the ABS, etc.
He couldn’t believe that I was selling the bike for $500.00
I explained to him that due to my depression that I was certain that I was never going to ride a motorcycle again. And that to put new tires on the bike, and new brakes, and a new battery, and to change out the fluids was going to run about $2k.
And the bike was costing me $110.00 / mnth just for parking.
So, I’m cutting my loses and letting it go to someone who wants to ride it.
He mentioned that he had some friends that were dealing with depression and he knew how it fucked them up.
I didn’t go to far with him into my fucked up world of depression
He doesn’t need to know what caused my depression.
He doesn’t need to know that I’m counting on that I will be allowed to die next year to be free of my depression.
I sensed that he was worried that he was taking advantage of a someone with depression who wasn’t thinking straight.
I assured him that this wasn’t a miscalculation, that I was selling the bike for $500.00 so that I could cut my loses, and that I didn’t want the bike sitting around rotting out.
I was happy to see him ride away with a once in a life time deal.
And I know that I am making the right decisions and the right choices.
It’s no use holding on to dreams that will never be. Doing so will just drive a person fucking insane. And I’m already more than insane enough.
Next week I’m going to go to ICBC and surrender my driver’s licence, I’ll trade it in for a BCID card.
Outside of my scooter, I don’t think I’ll be driving vehicles again in the time I have left, so why hold on to a driver’s licence?
Humans by nature, so I have learnt, are far from perfect.
Human brains are so delicate and so easily damaged.
I am far from perfect.
Trauma can destroy a brain.
I should know, mine is fucked.
Mine often feels like it is getting warm, and being crushed from within.
Brains, once traumatized, will never be the same.
No matter how hard you try, you’ll never forget how to ride a bicycle once you’ve learnt how to ride a bicycle.
No matter how hard you try, you’ll never forget how to skate on ice once you’ve skated on ice.
Once your brain has been traumatized you will never be the same.
There will be those that say “Well Bobbie, you’ll just have to try harder and just get over the past”.
Doesn’t work that way.
As I’ve said elsewhere, it wasn’t that people didn’t know about the abuse. People did know about the abuse. And the chose not to do anything about the abuse. And they chose to blame me for the abuse.
That fucked with me. That fucked with my brain.
And how your brain reacts to trauma is genetically set as well.
My mother had issues with anxiety to the point where she couldn’t care for me at times and I had to be taken in as a boarder at the hospital in Halifax.
My father had issues with depression to the point that he was returned to port by the Canadian Forces. Alcohol was his crutch. He was a happy drunk, and that’s why he drank. He only became a raging asshole when he was sober.
People commit suicide A LOT.
People will ALWAYS commit suicide.
According to the Public Health Agency of Canada, 4500 people die by suicide each year. That’s over 12 per day.
America had about 48,000 suicides in 2021
There’s only so much trauma one person’s brain can endure.
The human brain is hardwired to survive.
The fact that the human brain can also devise ways to kill itself indicates that the brain can only take so much stress and damage before it says that enough is enough.
And society has to understand that.
The human brain is a mushy blob of fat with a billion or so neurones that pass around signals by way of electrical and chemical processes.
Forcing people to endure hell is not right.
I get people at work that try to be friendly to me and try to cheer me up all of the time. It’s so fucking annoying.
I like to work because it keeps my brain distracted from its desire to die.
But with depression and anxiety I only have so much energy to give.
Yes, I snap at people.
Yes, I get pissed off at people.
Yes, I find people who talk to much to be annoying to the point that my brain feels like its on fire.
Yes, I am extremely forgetful.
Yes, I cannot remember faces and I get really fucking annoyed when people equate my knack for building automation with being too smart to forget faces.
My brain is damaged.
And I am tired.
With all that I have been through in life, and all that I have suffered through on my own, death is not a punishment.
My death is not an indication of my failure.
My death will be my release.
People have an irrational fear of death.
Death does not hurt.
Death is painless.
Death is peaceful.
Dying is the scary part.
And with all that I’ve been through, I think I deserve to be able to end my life when I want to and to have assistance with ending my life quickly and painlessly.
Sure, there are those who will claim that I am being selfish, and childish, and immature, and unthankful, not considerate of others, and going against god’s will.
Here’s an interesting tidbit. In the next 100 years, over 7.5 Billion people are going to die. The current estimate to date is that over 100 Billion people have died since humans began to walk the face of the Earth.
That’s a lot of death.
And yet the Earth still orbits around the Sun, our solar system still floats amongst other solar systems in the milky way, the milky way is one of an estimated two trillion galaxies in the universe.
My death will have no effect on any of this.
So far as god goes, god is a creation of humans.
God or the multitude of other gods have served as a crutch for humanity to explain things that couldn’t be explained and to justify things that are beyond justification.
Humans have always had an irrational fear of death.
It’s one of the curses of our intelligence.
We know we exist.
We know we are alive.
We also know that we die.
The human brain knows what it is like to be alive.
The human brain has no idea of what it feels like to not exist.
The human brain cannot imagine being dead.
Decaying and rotting corpses look bad and they smell bad.
But you have nothing to fear as once your brain is dead your corpse is just a piece of meat that can no longer maintain itself.
So the human mind creates heavens, hells, Xanadus and Valhallas and a plethora of other places in the “after life”.
And it creates gods to rule over those places.
Gods serve as a source of creation to explain where we came from.
Gods also serve as a source of comfort to take the fear out of death.
But then people become afraid of angering the gods that they have created.
And so every life is sacred.
Life on Earth is a gift.
You are an evil and flawed person if you want to take your leave early.
You will anger god.
God will cast you into a void or a lake of fire.
So suicide and medical assistance in dying become bad, and wrong, and evil.
Forcing people to endure mental trauma and mental anguish to keep the god crutch happy becomes the norm.
No one was around in 1978 to 1980 to stop Captain McRae and his teenaged accomplice.
No one was around when I was in the care of the military social worker.
No one was around when I had to endure my father’s wrath for “fucking with his military career”.
So you know what, you don’t get a say in my death.
And you don’t get to shame me, or chastise me, or ridicule me for choosing death over life.
I didn’t ask to be born.
I didn’t ask for this life.
I didn’t ask for the sexual, physical, and mental abuse.
I didn’t ask for the mental and emotional neglect.
But what I am asking for is a peaceful death.
Is that really too much to ask for?
In a recent text message, my brother Scott said that it was okay for me to use his name and his pictures.
I had no idea that these pictures existed until I visited Marie in December of 2013.
Even though Richard had very decent camera equipment for the time, there really doesn’t exist any pictures of my brother or I. Richard had tons of pictures of military aircraft, pictures of him and his buddies drinking on training exercises, and pictures of lots of other things that weren’t my brother and I.
Scott had texted me asking about the class action and we messaged back and forth for a bit.
I sent Scott a meme that I had gleaned from twitter:
That’s when he responded that Sue had given him a few pictures a while ago, but that he shredded them.
That’s when he said that I could use his name and share his pictures.
Yeah, we were about the same size as kids. Lots of people on Canadian Forces Base Griesbach and Canadian Forces Base Downsview mistook him as being the older sibling while I was mistaken for the younger sibling.
I’ve never mentioned Scott’s name for two reason.
The first reason is that I have no idea who he actually is.
The second reason is a lot of people really don’t want their names mentioned in matters like this.
When I say I don’t know who Scott is, I mean that.
The only thing that we really have in common is that we were sexually abused by the same person.
Yes, we have the same sperm donor.
Yes, we had the same egg donor.
Yes, we popped out of the same vag.
But we were raised feral.
I was born in Sept of ’71
He was born in Feb of ’74
Our mother was only around until early 1977, so he knew her about three years. I knew her for about six years.
I knew Richard’s anger and his drinking. I don’t think Scott remembers too much of that.
During our time on CFB Shearwater and CFB Summerside Richard was only around periodically, but when he was it usually wasn’t a pleasant time for anyone.
Once on CFB Shearwater, Richard was drinking and watching hockey and yelling at the TV like he always did. Scott was still in a walker and obviously bothering Richard. Richard told me to take Scott to his mother for her to look after him. Marie was downstairs doing laundry. I don’t think Richard realized this. So, I did as Richard said, I tried to take Scott to his mother. That didn’t work out too well, and down the stairs Scott went. Richard denied to Marie that he asked me to take Scott to Marie.
And that’s par for the course in Richard’s house.
Grandma came to live with us on Canadian Forces Base Summerside. Richard was rarely home.
And this is when Scott and I went full feral.
Grandma had a lot of issues from her time in Indian Residential School and from her rampant alcoholism. So she was never really around to raise my brother and I if you know what I mean. Yeah, she kept food in our bellies, and she kept darning our clothes no matter how worn out they had become, but she wasn’t their for Scott and I, so we just drifted around in our own spheres.
When you grow up in a household like that, especially a household on a military base where everyone minds their own business, you tend to go wild.
And wild we did go.
People have asked me if I am serious about the number of times that our babysitter abused my brother and I on CFB Namao. When I tell them that I am they give me an incredulous look as if I am lying. “Why didn’t you tell someone” is what they always ask. Even Alberta Crown prosecutor Jon Weribicki asked this in 2011. The entire time of our stay on CFB Namao, grandma was the only constant in the house. Richard was rarely home. And the one constant about grandma is that she was usually pissed drunk.
The older kids on base used to make “chugga, chugga” sounds when grandma was around. I wouldn’t learn until later in life that “Chug” is a derogatory term for an intoxicated Indian.
So, that’s why Scott and I were the babysitter’s favourite playthings. He knew we were practically on our own and that there was no one for us to tell.
I know Scott was hoping that I could make the babysitter stop, but that was well beyond my abilities.
I think our lack of parental units on CFB Shearwater, CFB Summerside, CFB Namao, CFB Griesbach, CFB Downsview set my brother and I on a collision course with the likes of Captain McRae and his teenaged accomplice as well as the others on the other bases.
Because of Richard’s well documented issues and his refusal to accept responsibility for his family, and his need to blame others, a massive rift was created between Scott and I as kids.
Richard didn’t love either of us, and he didn’t like the either of us.
Richard’s family wasn’t like one of those families you hear of where the mother and father have issues, but they love their children and they try their best.
Richard never actually had legal custody of my brother and I. He took advantage of the National Defence Act in 1977 to have our mother thrown out of the PMQ and off the base. Marie wanted to take my brother and I back to Nova Scotia to stay with our uncle, Al Dagenais. The reason for this was due to Richard’s drinking and physical abuse getting out of hand. Richard wasn’t concerned in the least about losing Scott and I. He was terrified of having to pay child support.
Around 1986, when we were living on Canadian Forces base Downsview in Ontario, one of Richard’s air force buddies asked Richard “Rick, if these fucking kids are driving you nuts, why don’t you give them back to their fucking mother and let her deal with the stupid fuckers”. Richard’s reply was that by doing so he’d be signing his paycheque over to that bitch and that as long as Scott and I lived with him he could control the costs.
So yeah, the household that Scott and I grew up in was completely devoid of any type of loving relationship.
Everything about Richard was penny pinching for my brother and I, but extravagance for Richard and his friends and relations.
Christmas was almost non-existent for Scott and I as kids as were birthdays. Anything we did get was usually from our mother (but secretly paid for by our uncle Doug).
Socks and underwear day is how Scott referred to christmas.
So yeah, it’s no wonder my brother and I don’t really know anything about each other.
When we lived on CFB Downsview in Toronto, my brother and I ran with totally different crowds.
I got further sexually abused and I got introduced to child prostitution. I know that I came damn close to being on a child pornography tape.
I don’t know if any of the men who took advantage of me while I lived on Canadian Forces Base Downsview got their hands on Scott, but I do know that Scott was familiar with one of these guys.
I’m almost 100% certain that Scott never turned tricks like I did, but I have no doubt that he got sexually abused as well.
I moved out of the house in late 1987 just after I had turned 16.
I never saw Scott again until the spring of 1990 when I was home on a layover on a six month contract job. My father took me up to Uxbridge, Ontario to see him.
I moved to Edmonton with my father in June of 1990 after my six month contract had ended. Richard said that “we could try to be a family again”. Scott didn’t move with us due to his obligations in Ontario at the time.
I lived on Canadian Forces Base Greisbach for about 1-1/2 months before my father bought a house in Morninville, AB.
The thing about “being a family again” didn’t work and I had my own apartment by October of 1990. I can’t remember when my brother finally arrived in Edmonton, but it was after I had my apartment.
Just as things didn’t work out between Sue and I in “her” new house in Morinville, things didn’t work out between Sue and Scott in Sue’s new house.
I guess that my brother and I were too uncouth to be in “her” house.
It’s probably a good thing that she got her kid off the bases before he got too old.
Scott ended up at my apartment with Richard stating that “I owed it to him (Richard)” after all he did to raise my brother and I without the help of that “silly bitch of a mother” of ours.
Richard absolutely refused to help with groceries or anything else, so Scott ended up going out to our mother’s acreage.
I left Edmonton in February of 1992. The economy sucked, I was unemployed and on welfare. I moved to Vancouver, BC.
I forget the actual sequence of events, but one day on the way to work Scott and his girlfriend were riding the Skytrain.
I think this was when Scott was attending “Columbia Academy of Arts” to be a mixing technician for music recording.
I’m thinking that this was around 1996ish. We didn’t stay in contact for more than a month or two.
Around 1998ish, Richard called me up at my place of employment and told me that Scott needed help to fix his car and because I owed Richard for all that he had provided to us when we were kids this was expected. Again, Scott and I didn’t stay in contact.
I know that Scott and his girlfriend celebrated New Year’s eve 2000 in Vancouver.
The next time I saw Scott was in 2003 when I went to Edmonton with my then girlfriend to see Richard. Richard had no time. I spent more time hanging out with my stepmother than I did with Richard.
That was the last time that I’d ever see Richard alive.
I saw Scott maybe once or twice during the week my girlfriend and I were in Edmonton.
I never did see Scott again until the summer of 2013. I had to contact Scott due to a Federal Court matter I had going on in which I had read his statement to the CFNIS in 2011 and I had some questions to ask him about his statement and the notes that were taken by the investigating officers. I also wanted to share with him the contents of our previously unknown Alberta Social Service Records and our Children’s Aid Society of Toronto records and my foster care records.
We hung out over the course of a week. That was something that I never thought would have been possible before. But after having read the social service records I realized that Scott and I turned out the best we could considering the defective household that we grew up in.
The highlight of the visit was Scott and I stopped for coffee and donuts at a coffee shop in the east side of Edmonton. Anyways, we’re sitting there and this elderly gent comes up to the two of us and asks us if we could please stop swearing as it’s too much for him and his wife.
Yeah, that’s one thing Scott and I did pick up from Richard and his mother. I’m not sure who swore worse, grandma or Richard. Grandma could unleash her profanities and put Richard to shame.
What the fuck is wrong with you? Do you want something to fucking cry about? I’ll give you something to fucking cry about. You fucking little asshole. You goddamn silly fucker. You little fucking cocksucker. That was from both grandma and Richard. Richard wasn’t afraid to let go with “you stupid cunt”, “you’re a fucking stunned cunt” and other choice words directed to his mother and other women around him.
In the fall of 2013 things fell apart between Scott and I, no doubt due to my brother’s recent re-aquaintence with my father.
My father had contacted my brother via our stepmother as Richard wanted to know about the Written Examination for Federal Court that I had subpoenaed Richard with. I guess Richard never thought that I would have seen the statement he gave to the military police in 2011 in which he denied that my brother and I had ever been sexually abused on CFB Namao, and in which he totally erased our grandmother from our past. I also don’t think that Richard thought that I would ever get my foster care records or my social service records.
But nonetheless Richard had to cover his ass.
I don’t blame my brother. I’ve known for a long time that Richard was a skilled and masterful manipulator. I’ll readily admit to being manipulated by Richard. Richard could manipulate anyone. I have no doubt that his manipulation skills were the only thing that allowed him to enjoy a 30 year career in the Canadian Armed Forces.
My brother and I didn’t really speak again until 2019. Since then we’ve had sporadic conversations. Nothing too in depth or extensive, and I honestly don’t think things will ever get better. That’s the way Richard raised us, and that’s what Richard wanted.
Scott and I were two strangers living in the same household.
I don’t think that Scott ever realized as a kid that our family was in as much trouble as it was, I know I sure as hell didn’t have the foggiest idea until I got my social service paperwork in 2011.
No doubt Richard had lied to Scott over the years and convinced Scott that nothing had happened on CFB Namao.
I don’t think Scott honestly believed anything of what I had to say about CFB Namao until the Canadian Armed Forces finally released the 1980 CFSIU investigation paperwork and the 1980 Courts Martial transcripts in November of 2020 which indicated that the military police in 1980 were very well aware of what the babysitter and Captain McRae had been doing to young children on the base.
It also helps that I have my class action going on at the moment because if I was Scott I wouldn’t believe a single fucking thing that came out of my mouth.
Do I blame Scott?
No.
How could I?
I know the household that Scott grew up in.
Fuck, I wouldn’t believe anything that came out of my mouth if I was him either.
As kids, when things went wrong in the house Richard would simply blame either Scott or I for what went wrong.
It was like he was doing everything to keep us at each other’s throat.
Gabor Maté observed that “no two children have the same parents” meaning that parents treat each child differently no matter how much they try to treat each child the same. Richard took that observation to the extreme. Not only did Scott and I not have the same father, but the father we had changed on an almost daily basis.
One day I was Richard’s little buddy, and the next day Scott was Richard’s little buddy.
Richard wouldn’t give the slightest fuck about Scott watching cartoons, but if I watched cartoons I’d get berated for watching that fucking horseshit. What the fuck is wrong with you, that shit is for little kids, why the fuck are you watching this?
So of course there would be animosity and resentment between the two of us.
Scott would break something, and I’d get blasted for not watching Scott and keeping him from breaking the thing. So of course I resented Scott. It’s what I was taught.
And I sure wasn’t in any position to raise or care for my brother no matter how much my father insisted that raising my brother was my responsibility.
I was diagnosed at age five as having anorexia due to “societal issues” in the house. At age nine, after having been sexually abused for 1-1/2 years I was found to be severely emotionally disturbed and suffering from major depression, severe anxiety, and haphephobia.
I was in no position to “raise” my brother or to take over as my brother’s father.
So yeah, there really isn’t much of any connection between Scott and I.
Hopefully whatever settlement we get from the Department of National Defence and the Canadian Armed Forces is enough to help him out because that’s all that I can really do.
There will be no magical time machines to jump into and to go back in time and redo our lives.
I don’t connect easily with people.
I have no emotions to offer.
And I’m undergoing M.A.i.D. sometime in 2024.
Our father never taught us how to love or how to be loved.
Richard taught us how to hate, and how to despise, how to show contempt, and how to be isolated.
(( I will preface this post by stating that I am not speaking in an official capacity for my employer, Providence Health Care)))
If you’ve paid attention to the news over the last little while you’ll be familiar with the fact that St. Paul’s Hospital does not offer Medical Assistance in Dying on the premisses due to the fact that Providence Health Care is a Christian faith based organization.
Bobbie, you’re an atheist, how can you work there?
The same way all the other employees that follow different religions and faiths do.
Due to media attention that was generated over the transfer of end-of-life patients to other non-Catholic facilities to obtain their M.A.i.D. procedure, the Ministry of Health was being called upon to take action.
And action they did, they sat down with Providence and came to an agreement.
M.A.i.D. will still not be provided at St. Paul’s Hospital.
However, M.A.i.D. will be provided in a brand new facility being built directly adjacent to the hospital.
So far what I know is that the new building will not physically touch the Providence buildings, but will be close enough that a small walkway will connect the new facility to the Providence 2 building.
The new building will belong to and will be operated by Vancouver Coastal Health.
Patients at St. Paul’s who are requesting medical assistance in dying will be “transferred” from the care of St. Paul’s to the care of the VCH M.A.i.D. program.
I know more or less the exact location of this new building.
I know that it is supposed to be in full operation by the summer of 2024.
The oddly interesting thing about where this facility is going is that it is being connected to the Providence II building where the Providence IV building was supposed to connect. Due to the government in the ’80s and ’90s failing to provide the required funding, only half of the modern St. Paul’s Providence buildings were built.
Providence 1 was built, the funding fell through for Providence 2 so Providence 2 was built in two stages. Parking levels P2 to 1st floor. 2nd floor to 10th floor came a year or two later. However Providence 3 and Providence 4 were never built.
Will I obtain my M.A.i.D. procedure there?
Nope.
First, I believe that the M.A.i.D. facility will only be available for patients on site.
Second, this would terrorize my co-workers.
I once joked with the chief pathologist on site that I wanted my autopsy done on site……. the replied “Don’t even joke about that. I wouldn’t let my staff do an autopsy on someone they knew”.
With the exception of one electrician, no one at work knows what I’ve gone through and no one except for that same electrician knows that I wish to avail myself to M.A.i.D.
As I’ve said, I have two options.
One option is to arrange to donate my organs, in which case my procedure will occur in a hospital like Vancouver General where my corpse can be taken to an operating room immediately after my death so that my organs can be harvested.
The other option that I have, and this is the one that I am favouring, is to have my M.A.i.D. procedure take place in a funeral home.
This would be the easiest for me to set up. A one stop shop if you will.
Put to sleep
Store my corpse for the required 48 hours.
Cremate my corpse.
As of today it is 14 weeks and 5 days until I see my doctor to make my formal application for M.A.i.D.
I don’t seem my two assessments as being completed before anytime before June or July of 2024.
After that comes the 90 day cooling down period.
Then comes the prescription.
The prescription for M.A.i.D. is apparently valid for 1 year.
I don’t think I’d want to linger for the full year.
I’ll definitely want to take some time off work, not too long, maybe about 6 months.
And then I’d like to undergo my procedure.
In the meantime the new M.A.i.D. facility will be in operation.
Okay, so it’s been suggested to me to not publish anything at this moment that speaks directly to the class action or the subject of the class action as it has entered a critical phase.
I watched a movie yesterday on Netflix titled “The Luckiest Girl Alive”.
The film centres around an adult woman who is trying to make the perfect life for herself in order to hide her past.
Her past involves surviving a school shooting with allegations that she may have been involved with the shooting.
As the story progresses we learn that just prior to the school shooting she had been raped by three of the popular boys. During the shooting two of the boys are killed and one boy survives but is paralyzed.
At the time of the rape the girl was blamed for being assaulted with her own mother hinting that her own daughter was loose.
The school didn’t want anything to proceed legally.
And in the aftermath of the shooting, the paralyzed boy was looked upon with sympathy from the community and it appears that in order to scuttle any chance of the girl ever bringing rape charges against the boy and ruining his new found stardom, it was leaked to the community that she was implicated in the shooting.
In the end, everything unravels, as an adult she is able to get the paralyzed boy to confess to the fact the he did rape her.
This movie, along with “unbelievable” have a somewhat bittersweet taste for me.
Whereas the female characters in these two films receive their justice at the end of the film, there won’t be any such thing for me.
The babysitter will always be the innocent little angel.
I will forever be the homosexual pervert that allowed the babysitter to do what he did to myself and my brother.
When I talked with the babysitter’s father in 2015, he absolutely loved his son. He blamed himself for what his son had done.
My father threw me under the fucking train. No matter how bad my mental health issues were and no matter how bad the trauma had fucked me up, it was my fault.
Well, it’s December 2023.
Will this be my last New Years?
Xmas was never a thing for me.
New Years always had the potential to be the start of something new. But the new years were just the same as the old years.
As I’ve said, I’m really looking forward to making my application for M.A.i.D. in March. That’s just a little over three months now.
I am so tired.
And this isn’t a new tiredness.
This is a tiredness that I’ve endured for a very, very long time.
I’m tired of grinding my teeth at night.
I’m tired of this whole mess swirling around in my brain.
I am so very sick and tired of being blamed for not being happy.
I’m tired of using work as a distraction to keep me distracted from the damage in my brain.
Distracting myself with hobbies and activities doesn’t work.
I do love my dresses and my tattoos, but they’re not enough.
Sometime in 2024 I will hopefully be able to be free of this.
Well, it’s four months to go until I see my nurse practitioner to engage the path for Medical Assitance in Dying.
The sense of calm that I have enjoyed since I first decided to avail myself to M.A.i.D. grows day by day.
It’s like the feeling you get when you’re doing a double shift at work and you’re dead tired and your bones ache and you can’t wait to get home and go to bed. You know it will all be over soon.
That’s the way it is with me.
My end is coming soon.
My end will be peaceful.
No trauma, no terror.
Again, it’s four months until my application, not four months until the proceedure.
At this point in time I have no idea of when I will be able to undergo the proceedure.
According to my lawyer, the Department of Justice is close to offering up a settlement.
My fear is that Captain McRae’s teenaged accomplice will be the only one to get any form of compensation.
I can see the DOJ arguing that it can only offer compensation to the victims of Captain McRae and not the victims of Captain McRae’s teenaged accomplice.
In 1980, contrary to the evidence on hand, Base Commander Colonel Daniel Edward Munro only forwarded the charges related to the babysitter to the court martial court. All other charges against Captain McRae were dropped.
Remember that this was in 1980. There was no military prosecutor to review the charges. The Provincial Crown wasn’t consulted. It was the commanding officer of the accused that reviewed the charges. McRae’s commanding officer was base commander Colonel Daniel Edward Munro.
No one will ever know if the investigation was interferred with back in 1980.
This was one of the concerns with the Somalia Inquiry, that the chain of command could exert influence over military police investigations due to the rank hierarchy in the military and the legal requirement for military personal to obey the lawful commands of their superiors. This is what led to significant changes to the National Defence Act in 1998 with the passing of Bill C-25 “An Act to Ammend the National Defence Act”.
Also, it was a chain of command decision in 1980 to not call the Royal Canadian Mounted Police in to deal with the babysitter thereby forever fucking the victims of both pedophiles.
Apparently the DOJ is working towards payments based on a table that was used for the Indian Residential School Settlements.
The problem with this is that it’s based upon a $10,000.00 payment for every child that went to Residential School. To claim more you had to provide verified proof that other events occured at school.
When I made my complaint to the Edmonton Police Service in 2011, it was kicked over to the CFNIS. The CFNIS even admitted in their paperwork that in 1980 this matter was the jurisdiction of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police as it was civilian on civilian.
The fact that the CFNIS had in their possession the CFSIU investigation paperwork from 1980 and the courts martial transcripts from 1980 would seem to indicate that I am not the first person to come forward with complaints against the babysitter.
This operation to gaslight me was far too smooth.
If it wasn’t for Master Corporal Christian Cyr telling me very specific information and asking me very specific questions, both of which only existed in CFSIU DS 120-10-80, I would never have had any proof.
If I was a gambling man I’d say that the CFNIS has investigated complaints against Captain McRae and the babysitter numerous time since 1998.
But with the legal inability to ever charge Angus McRae for crimes against children that occured prior to 1998 due to the three year time bar in the National Defence Act, the CFNIS, the Canadian Forces Military Police Group, and the Canadian Forces Provost Marshal more than likely have a well oiled script for dealing with these complaints that always, and without exception, just don’t have enough evidence to lay charges.
Sorry, better luck next time.
The CFNIS ran a very, very smooth gaslighting operation from the word go.
The goal of the investigation was to try to convince me that (a) the abuse never occured, (b) the abuse was very minor and trivial, (c) I was lying about the abuse.
When interviewing one of the other victims of the babysitter, the CFNIS asked this victim if he would agree that “Bobbie was a societal malcontent with an axe to grind against the military”.
So, what does this have to do with the potential DOJ settlement?
Based on the information provided to the Alberta Crown, the crown determined that basically I was a liar. There was obviously no babysitter and my father said there was no babysitter. The CFNIS provided the Alberta Crown with the babysitter’s incorrect age. The exact incorrect age that existed in the 1980 CFSIU paperwork. This led Alberta Crown prosecutor Jon Weribicki to conclude that 1-1/2 years of graphic child sexual abuse at the hands of a pedophile that was twice my age and fully sexually developed was nothing more than “childhood curiosity and experimentation”.
Why would the CFNIS do this?
It wouldn’t be their choice.
This would have come down from high up the chain of command. The Vice Chief of Defence Staff has the legal authority under the National Defence Act to direct ANY CFNIS investigation.
Much like in 1980, the Canadian Armed Forces and the Department of National Defence would be terrified of the Canadian public discovering that children were not safe on military bases and that the military justice system failed untold numbers of kids.
And even worse, the Canadian Forces don’t want it known that they can’t conduct courts martial proceedings for service offences that occured prior to 1998 due to the 3-year time bar. And they can’t simply kick these matters over to the civilian courts as that option didn’t exist in 1980. In 1980 Captain McRae could only be tried by courts martial for the service offences of Gross Indecency, Indecent Assault, and Buggery. There was no way possible in 1980 to send him to the civilian system. And if the either the CFSIU or the CFNIS arrested and charged Angus McRae anytime between May of 1983 and his death in May of 2011 the CFSIU or the CFNIS wouldn’t be able to do anything with the charges as the three year time bar would apply.
Now, I doubt the the Minister of National Defence, the Chief of Defence Staff, and the Vice Chief of Defence Staff in 2011 would have ever envisioned that I would have seen this matter through as far as I have.
They probably all assumed that I would have sulked away with my tail between my legs.
The problem is that I went though too much hell with Captain Terry Totzke and Master Corporal Richard Wayne Gill in the aftermath.
However, I think I’m about to be subjected to the maxim “No Good Deed Goes Unpunished”.
I think what the DOJ will argue is that the 2011 CFNIS investigation should apply when determining how much settlement money I am offered. Meaning that I will walk away with maybe $10,000.00.
Based on the six charges that Colonel Daniel Edward Munro forwarded to the Courts Martial panel, the babysitter might walk away with $50,000.00 to $100,000.00 even though he was abusing us on his own and providing us to Captain McRae for Captain McRae to abuse in the rectory of the chapel after giving us wine.
Other victims of Captain McRae or the babysitter may fare better than I will as they weren’t called liars by the CFNIS, so if they claim that they were abused 5 or 6 times by the babysitter or McRae they might get $50,000.00 to $100,000.00 as the CFNIS wasn’t able to cast doubt on the veracity of their complaint.
And the one thing that the DOJ is refusing to even entertain compensation for is the years of conversion therapy I endured at the hands of Captain Terry Totzke in the aftermath of CFB Namao. And the DOJ is not willing to compensate for Captain Terry Totzke’s refusal to allow me to receive treatment for my severe mental illnesses due to the sexual abuse on CFB Namao.
But Bobbie, you’ve won, right?
Nope.
I haven’t won anything.
I’ve lost everything.
I’ve lost more in this life than you’ll ever realize.
I’ve lost more in this life then I’ll ever realize.
I was betrayed by my own father.
I was betrayed by the Canadian Armed Forces.
I was betrayed by the Government of Canada.
It wasn’t my choice to live in military housing on military bases.
At no point in my life did I ever agree to give up my rights as a Canadian Citizen to instead my rights as a Canadian Citizen to be cast aisde by the absolutely insane National Defence Act.
So, here I lay on my bed typing this blog entry out.
I know that the memories of the abuse and the aftermath still haunt me to this day.
As a kid I was never treated as a victim.
I was blamed for my abuse and the abuse of my brother on CFB Namao by Captain Terry Totzke and by my father.
The drepression and the anxiety eat away at me each and every day.
And this is why I really want medical assistance in dying.
It wasn’t that I had been abused once or twice and never told anyone.
It went on for a year and a half.
I was blamed for it
I was blamed for what happened to my brother.
I had to endure a dysfunctional household while this was going on.
My grandmother who raised my brother and I from 1976 until 1981 was a piss tank alcoholic.
My own father was a rage prone piss tank alcoholic in the Canadian Armed Forces.
We lived on military bases where dysfunctiona familes were a dirty secret and where everyone minded their own business no matter what they heard going on behind the walls of the PMQs.
I was so far gone that I was supposed to have been institutionalized in two different provinces.
I never received any manner of help with my major depression and severe anxiety that was a result of the sexual abuse with the exception of backhands and belts from my father to help correct my “fucking piss poor attitude”.
With medical assitance in dying I get to go away and never suffer from this shit again.
Yes, I’ll be dead. But I’ll be dead one day anyways. Why prolong the suffering?
It’s not like I’ll get the settlement cheque and then sunshine will burst forth from the heavens.
An apology won’t do fuck all, especially not at this juncture, not after having been fucked silly by the CFNIS starting in 2011.
And with my father being dead and never having to even admit what the fuck he truly knew in 1980, what he agreed to with the CFSIU and the chain of command on CFB Namao in 1980, or having to even weakly explain his statement to the CFNIS in 2011, there never will be any closure for me on this matter.
Yes, I fully understand that my father had great difficulty telling the truth. And he had a predisposition to tell people what he thought they wanted to hear. But it would have at least provided a small modicum of closure watching him squirm.
With the way my brain works I’d be focusing on this shit for the rest of my days. My untreated depression and anxiety would just continue to worsen as the days went by.
This is why I welcome death.
It puts an end to my issues.
It puts an end to my torment.
It puts an end to my mental anguish and suffering.
Two weeks ago I went to see a photographer who took some pictures.
The last time Albert took some pictures of me was back before COVID-19
I honestly have no idea of where I would have ended up in life had I not been raised in a severely dysfunctional family.
Richard was not the type of parent to foster any type of growth.
Shut you fucking mouth. Why the fuck do you have to listen to that shit? Just go to school and take some fucking basket weaving courses and stare at the fuclking blackboard.
I learnt electronics from Richard? Not fucking likely.
I learnt automotive mechanics from Richard? Definitely a big fucking no there.
Surely Richard instilled a love of computers in you? Between 1987 and 2000 I didn’t own a computer. Never really had an interest in computers. Sure, I use the internet for my blogs, and doing research and such, but nope, no great love for computers
I was into make-up in the period of 2006 to 2011, but my dealings with the Canadian Armed Forces destroyed me emotionally and mentally. In a way I probably should have listened to Richard.
Wearing make-up died.
But my dresses never left.
Anyways, enjoy the pictures…………
Do you think you know what depression looks like?
Do you think you know what depression feels like?
Here’s a message from the Norwich Football Club in Norwich, Norfolk, England.
The message deals with depression and how people can very easily miss the signs if they don’t know what they’re looking for.
Not much really.
Computers?
Nope.
But you’re so good with them?
Nope, I can just RTFM and I have decent logic
Electronics?
Nope.
That’s just common sense and logic again.
Cars / motorcycles?
Nope.
Never have liked cars.
Bicycles?
Nope.
They’e good to ride and easy to fix, but that’s it.
Scooters?
Nope.
Cheap to ride and charge, but that’s it really.
Camping?
Nope.
Travel?
Nope.
Music?
Yes, but just listening to music, anything musical inside of me was successfully killed by my father.
Television / movies?
Nope. Thankfully Richard and Sue didn’t want us in the PMQ while we were kids, so going for long lonely walks as a kid to keep the pain of the cold at bay is what I would do instead of getting hooked on TV as a kid.
Sports.
Fuck no. I loved sports before the events of CFB Namao. But after Captain Totzke said that I could never play sports due to my “homosexuality” I grew to resent sports. Besides, I learnt from my father to despise hockey and such. He didn’t hate hockey. He loved it. He would sit at home screaming and yelling at the TV screen getting pissed of angry and drunk when the Toronto Makebeliefs would lose a game, which was almost every game back in the ’80s. When Richard was ranting and railing against his favourite team you didn’t dare disturb him.
Electronics have always been something that I was able to use on jobs to keep my employment and offset my depressed personailty.
People can detect my issues long before they’ve ever talked to me.
The one thing that I always had was my ability to do techinical work that was far above the pay grade of the job that I was applying for.
When I started working at Lions Gate Lanes in 1992 I wasn’t “one of the guys”. I didn’t hang out with the men’s bowling leagues and shoot the shit about sports teams and tit’s ‘n’ ass like the other mechanics would. But what I did have going for me is that I could repair the CPU and Video boards for the AS-80 scoring system, along with the optical scanners. Repairing the overhead video monitors was extremely beneficial.
I could do the same mechanical work that everyone else was expected to do, but I could use my electronics knowledge to offset that I wasn’t a “team player” like the other guys.
When Lions Gate Lanes closed down in the summer of 1993 I was offered a position at a bowling centre in Mississauga owned by the same company.
The head mechanic out there wasn’t going to be told what he had to do by a West Coast manager. And besides, I wouldn’t drink with the boys, I didn’t get a kick out of the girlie posters in the work shop, and I didn’t shoot the shit with the boys.
People find it odd that I don’t “check” people out or enjoy porn, or pin ups, or talking about sex in general. Y’all can thank Captain Totzke for that odd aspect of my personality.
People often take my lack of interest in girls, not as a general lack of interest in sex, but as a sign that I’m gay.
Yeah, I’ve sucked dick in my life.
But that’s what you’re supposed to do when you’re a homosexual, right?
Not being interested in girls doesn’t have anything to do with the abused you suffered at the hands of the babysitter. Nope. Not being interested in girls = being a homo.
Anyways the head mechanic at Mississauga wasn’t going to have a homo in his shop.
This is why I was able to get my employment insuarnce claim re-opened after they completed their investigation.
When I came back to Vancouver I would end up getting a job at a small bowling cente in East Richmond. The centre was brand new and had only been open since 1989. It had the latest computerized pinsetters. And that was a major problem. Their mechanics couldn’t do any type of electronic repairs or electronic troubleshooting.
I came in and was able to repair just about everything in the centre. Pinsetter CPU boards, I/O boards/ power supplies, AS-90 Scoring system, etc. Plus I could MIG weld which was beneficial as this pinsetter was made from stamped sheet metal and would often suffer cracks.
I never did get sent for factory training at either bowling centre.
You’re far too smart.
But without factory training there would be absolutely no advancement.
I started working in commercial office buildings in 1998.
Working on the building automation systems was a piece of cake as I had a good understanding of electronics and computers.
But more of the same shit.
When you’re dealing with tenants that pay thousands of dollars per month in rent, they want special treatment, and it’s expected that you’ll kiss their asses and tickle their nutsacks whe requested.
Fixing things is what I do.
Blowing sunshine up the ass of some rich trustfund brat who’s running his “own” company because daddy gave him a $500,000.00 loan wasn’t a skill of mine.
Heaping praise on someone who makes their living from trading penny stocks and scamming seniors with investment scams wasn’t a skill that I was very good at.
Want your lights fixed?
I’m your man.
Want your heatpump replaced?
I’m your man.
Want your nutsack tickled because you fell into a CEO position that your father bought for you?
Go fuck yourself.
Bobbie, why didn’t you just go to trade school or take a diploma program?
Well, calling up daddy and stepmommy for a loan or help with getting a loan, or help with a place to live was not in the cards .
At this point in time I had no idea where my mother was, and as I would find out when I located her in 2013 and talked to her, it wouldn’t have been of any use.
And then there’s the problem of my depression and my anxiety and my intense self loathing.
I would have been absolutely terrified of approaching my father for any type of help with as any failure in a trade or diploma program would have only elicited more scorn and derision from him.
So I took Power Engineering. Started with my 5th class refrigeration operator, and then did my 4th class.
I thought that Power Engineering would be something. But its not.
There’s a misconception in property management and plant management that Power Engineers are engineers.
They’re not.
They have an understanding of refrigeration plant operation, boiler plant operating, operating low pressure and high pressure thermal plants, operating low pressure and high pressure steam plants, firing oil fired boilers, natural gas fired boilers, oil fired boilers, black liquor fired boilers, and fluidized bed boilers. They understand thermodynamics, psychrometrics, enthalpy, and other basic principles of physics.
But that’s not what the majority of empoloyers that require power engineers on site hire power engineers for.
The vast majority of employers just hire power engineers to satisfy the basic requirement to meet provincial regulations of having a power engineer on site while the boilers or chillers are in operation.
The vast majority of plants that hire power engineers are looking for “Johnny the janitors” who can look after stuff that janitors can look after, but the employers cheap out and just dump all of the work that doesn’t require a TQ on to the power engineers.
If I had a chance to do my life over again, what would I do?
Probably something in fashion, or theatrics.
Back at Pierre Laporte I used to do the lighting for school productions and I’d look after the sound.
I was good enough at this that Mr. Ford got me a weekend job at a local P.A. rental shop repairing lighting and sound equipment.
I like clothing.
I love dresses and mix and matching with dresses.
As I’ve said numerous times, I’ll never understand why men don’t wear dresses.
For some reason when it comes to dresses and my manner of dressing, I don’t give two fucking shits what anyone thinks.
I don’t identify as a women.
I don’t want to be a woman.
But I love dresses.
I liked make-up when I was into it in the period of 2006 to 2011.
But then again I bought myself a nice little sewing machine a few years ago.
I got rid of it a short while ago.
It was painful looking at it as it sat in my apartment unused.
See, every time I tried to use it Richard was there screaming at me for being such a silly fucker.
My brother doesn’t understand what it’s like having Richard and Terry living in my head.
But they’re there.
Shitting all over anything that I like to do.
Child sexual abuse in the Canadian Forces 